Understanding in relationships matter a lot. To an extent, some people are meant to have the best romantic relationship which may even lead to marriage but the fact that they barely understand each other ruins it all. 
That’s not just it. They may not be dedicated or working towards making the relationship aim higher and that’s where it all dies. 

After being in series of relationships, I can finally say that I’ve got a serious relationship after years of trying to be in one. There is something I have noticed. Many times, my man and I barely understand each other. And there are times when we may be saying the same thing but our mode of explanation may be different and it leads to us having little or no understanding about each other. 

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This morning, I asked him about an event he went to last night and he said it was good. Under that response, he wrote “we knocked out”. We knocked out can actually give different meanings. To me, I felt he meant that they achieved their aim and the event went well but to him, all he meant was that he and his friends slept and became unconscious. 

The argument almost led to a real quarrel that it led to me crying after he called me a dullard. 
“I don’t think I can do this with you anymore,” I said to him and he began to apologize knowing fully well that he has done something wrong and said something I didn’t like. 

After the whole thing, I reheard my statement in my head and started to wonder why I said I wouldn’t want to continue the relationship with him. It will be simple if I made him know that I didn’t like the word he used on me and he wouldn’t use it anymore. 
If he were to be a nonchalant person, the relationship was surely going to end right there. I was glad things didn’t end and I’ve vowed not to ever use such word again. 

Since I really want things to work, I’ll put a limit to my threats and all other things I say to him. I have my spec and there was a time when I used to say that I want a man who does a kind of job, his height and all other features. At some point, I learned that we should take whatever life gives to us. This does not mean you’re settling for less but if it will bring you peace, go for it and you’ll glow in happiness. 

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Lastly, there is no perfect man or woman. We all have our flaws and as long as we are ready to accept that we are not perfect, we’ll be able to adjust things when we finally have a partner. 
Life is too short to be alone. We all need that one person who feels like home and as long as we are willing to, the right person will definitely show up.