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In order to meet the needs of each other, we must first know them and understand. All my previous posts were dedicated to this topic. The theme, however, is more about the differences between men and women. But to break the illusion of "I know what he/she thinks, feels or wants" and "he needs to understand why I take offense... it's obvious!"

Men and women are different. And if a woman wants to better understand your man, you should check (just to learn) about its physiological nature, thinking style, emotional state, typical behavior in different situations. The same applies to men who want to better know his wife. Unfortunately, all this knowledge is not in school, and young people, marrying, or just communicating with each other, make common mistakes without even realizing it.

And now briefly about how to meet the needs of each other:

- first and foremost - to accept each other for who we are. This is especially true of husband and wife in marriage, because "I saw eyes that bought". Today, it is not popular marriages that conclude the parents and not young, so every groom/bride should have a good decide (or have decided) that this is the man I want to spend the rest of his life until his death. This means "that not "of this, only a bit of her/him has improved..."

- Respect each other. This is a continuation of the previous paragraph. That is, we do not just accept each other (and let him do what he wants, if only I did not touch). We see the strengths and good qualities of each other. And we thank each other for these qualities, because most of these qualities are in us. And, frankly, I see the person he becomes. There is still important to add that respect and in others, any criticism is only from eye to eye.

- To communicate with each other regularly on topics relating to Your sensations, thoughts, or dreams (that is, the discussion menu for tomorrow, children's behavior, a list of purchases not included). Through communication, we know each other, better understand the needs and desires of each other. Regularly is at least once a week. Just the two of you, without friends, without children or parents. What is important is the place (environment) where it is convenient, cozy and You definitely do not distract. Communication helps us to resolve conflicts, which we ourselves create, when "playing stretching" hoping "he/she should himself/herself to figure out what I want or why I am offended." At some point in this game we get bored (because, usually both lose), and we begin to learn how to use God's gift to people - communication.

- In communication use "I phrases" and not "You - the phrase" charges. Even in conflict don't say "You hurt me!", and "it hurt Me to hear from You..." etc. Often no one specifically doesn't want to offend, but "climax scenes" of the conflict. But the conflict is a separate issue. Communicating, it is important that everyone talked about themselves and myself. While carefully listening to the other. Such rules of communication save power and nerves and promote better relationships. As well as personal growth, because the person returns the locus of control from others to yourself, that is not "all to blame" and "I am the Creator of your reality."

- To respect the needs of each other. Even if I do not have such needs, but for my partner it is very important to try to meet the demand. That is true love in action and service, not just in words. Very often we have different needs and it is difficult for us to understand each other (especially the need for in-depth communication for women and frequent sexual cohabitation for men - more about that next post).

- Man needs to be calm and confident at a time when his wife's emotional instability (very bad mood) or an emotional breakdown (very, very bad mood, in other words already hysterical). If very briefly - negative emotions "cover" a woman in spite of her conscious desire to be "white and fluffy". The woman herself to deal with her emotions cannot. In other words, she needs protection from her same... At the moment when a woman breaks down emotionally, a man needs to remember that he is not guilty in a bad mood, but my wife can help her. If the person is calm and confidently says to his wife "I love You!" and "everything will be fine!" or just cuddles, hugs and kisses, the woman slowly calms down, because he feels accepted, loved and safe (the main needs of women).

- Man, it is important to have time and opportunity from time to time to "go to cave". There he calms down and is restored. And wife it is important to remember this and not "run after him". You just need to wait until he gets back in a good mood. A woman needs to use in order to get positive emotions, or just relax. Otherwise, there are two bad options: when the wife tries to get her husband out of the cave" (gives him peace, asks, sympathetic offended or Vice versa), or when the wife "politely" waiting for husband to come down (it is waiting in suspense and excitement, and when he goes quiet says, as she waited tensely, hints of accusing him).

 The man needed his wife's support in his entrepreneurial initiatives. Not mean that the wife immediately "enough for work", but it is necessary that she believed that man can achieve what he wants. The wife can tell the details or to talk about your intuition (how does she meet it is better to translate). If a spouse objects to the entrepreneurial idea of her husband out of fear (not wanting to risk it), or simply sees no possibility of achieving them (and recall that women often see the parts, and strategically to see them difficult), then over time, the man or himself ceases to believe in yourself and no longer wants something more, or meets another woman who believes in him and inspires him to feats.

 The wife needed the husband's support in her initiatives to create comfort at home or on parenting.If a husband supports his wife in her ideas, the woman has no desire to "create" your own space and nurture children, and there is only a charge... Without creativity, a woman gradually becomes a robot, knows their responsibilities and trying to get them to perform. And any ideas that go beyond what should be, scaring the woman (because she has experience that her husband would not support, and even criticize - why create problems for yourself). Therefore, for the development and well-being of women need the support of her husband, his ideas and his creativity (perhaps with some adjustments).

- Have free time only for yourself, for your hobby. And respect the time of the partner. Not allowed to, namely to respect. What does this paragraph meet the needs of the partner? A lot - because when a man wants to relax with friends, the wife should devote more time and effort seven"and Vice versa. The man, in most, the harder it is to stay home watching children. But it's necessary, because having free time only for ourselves, we fill ourselves with positive emotions, no more strength. Yes, and just bring something new and interesting in our communication. We cannot fixate only on family and work, because then "emotionally vigorem".

 For the wife it is important to have "the nest", which needs to provide a man. We can say that this is his first assignment after the wedding. Remember the song "build a house at least from the quinoa, and someone else don't be". It's natural needs and objectives, the nature of the male builds housing and leads to the female. And the female is already settles in his own right. A man can feel himself the master, the master only in his own castle (basic value, purchased or leased - no; what matters is that there only lives the owner and his family). For women "the castle" is necessary, because only in it the woman feels safe, and can itself be expressed, creating a comfort to your taste.
A woman needs a man's attention and his gifts, and the man thanks the woman and her admiration for him. These needs are easily met and mutually supplemented. Just need them not to forget!!!

The man must often hear the words "You're strong and smart!!!", and his wife must often hear the words "You're good! I love You!!!". That's right - OFTEN. These words work wonders in our life :)