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Why do people feel the need to have the person? Why "fuck you" wrapped in a nice coloring package that says "I love you"? Possessiveness is closely connected with ignorance. Here in what sense. What do you do when you're trying to own another person? What do you do when you are trying to postpone for your partner? You cling to him. You don't like what you believe, isn't it?

It is a reality. You cling to each other, trying to turn him into a good staff, because You don't know who you are. If you knew what treasures you hold inside you nor your boss you don't start trying to own, control or dominate another person. But You don't know who you are. Do you think that you are a poor beggar, who woke up during the night with something of value. This is something that you hold with your teeth. She became your property. Don't let it go. You desperately cling to the relationship, it makes you feel a little better. Is love in your opinion. All this is obviously an illusion. Love does not take hostages. Do not tie people to a chair leg, whispering: "you're so important to me. I love you so much”.

To love is to give. When you love you give each other what you do best. You don't give what you do not. We provide what you. That may be satisfactory to him/her. Or not. That's another question. It is important that when you really love someone, give what you have to offer and not ask for anything in return. Of course, if you have any suggestions. It would be madness to refuse. But don't pretend. Love does not oblige anyone to do anything. In this sense, love is freedom. It is the criterion of the crystal, and then you can know whether or not you love someone.

If you love someone, you respect freedom. Much more than that. If you can help to expand freedom. Nurtured with love, your loved one becomes increasingly free. It extends in several directions, he reveals new aspects of the personality, learns to adequately protect vulnerable places that turns rough. You don't like because you want another. You're not a beggar. You are the Emperor! There is no question of whether to take something but to give something. I repeat: maybe others have something to give you.

Two people offer each other something of the joy, quality, energy, or time, without asking for anything in return. Everything else is not a relationship of true love. This meeting of two beggars who, from time to time can give you something for free. How many Royal relations? Relations that should not be subtly infiltrated by the demons of possessiveness, jealousy or control several. You can revolt this statement. Somehow applies to you. But you have a harmonious relationship. Your wife is correct. Your husband is correct. Do not run ahead of a steam locomotive. The demons remain hidden in the caves of the unconscious, waiting for a favorable situation. My hypothesis is the following: if you haven't encountered any situation in which your partner must be attracted to someone else, I'm sure You have not exceeded possessiveness. I say "almost" because there are likely to be a Saint, situiație in which I would like to meet with You and get my hands on you.

There is a criterion by which you can recognize true love. True love never causes suffering. You don't suffer "in love". Love is real, never allow suffering. Just happiness. When you truly love you spend. You are outside. You are filled with energy of love and share it with someone. It is very simple. Love has arisen in you and flow from you to someone else. That's why You don't ask for anything in return. That's why there is no possessiveness. If love flows, your marriage doesn't pose any problems for you. There is no suffering. Orientation to someone else (not necessarily people). You're just like water flows in a path that was an obstacle. You will cease to roll? No, going to turn a little left or right and all. You will continue to do. At this point I really want to make a statement.

There are people whose love was rejected and those who decided not to run. Some retire into monasteries, if they could not love each other, you will be able to love God. Others beside myself. They tried or are trying to block love. But the love that he expresses are not born monsters! Energy that doesn't follow the natural course turns into its opposite. Water, whose flow is blocked, you know what? Swamp. I don't think you would want to wear a swamp in your interior. But you looked enough to verify this? A love that leads to suffering is not real. It is unreal! Is love an illusion. You're suffering now (he dumped you) and you are convinced that you loved him. My dear, you never loved him. You just have to imagine it! This is one of the most beautiful things people can imagine. And people do not hesitate at all. If you loved him, you would be interested to be right there where he went to be satisfied with their choice. If he started a new relationship, your desire will be for him to be happy.

True love cares about the happiness of others. The ghostly love takes care of me. To maintain such a criterion: if your love has led you to misery, it was love in large part imagined. Love creates freedom and joy. If you feel that you failed in love, please don't blame love for this. To be as aware as you can and see that it is your responsibility. Maybe you had certain expectations. Certain claim. The queries that I never expressed. Wishes that You didn't know. It all belongs to you. They have nothing to do with love. Do you remember? Love is to give, to share.

In love there are no victims. The victims exist only in battle. If you are now crying is not a sign that you loved. This is a sign that you've lost the battle. You don't seem to have any mercy to you? In a sense, you're right. I have no pity for the errors. As if you're sleeping, I will throw some cold water on your face. Wake up to reality! If you keep dreaming love, you will never experience true love. If he left, or if she abandont, it not only shows that they need something else. What you suggested isn't quite what they were looking for. Why get angry over this? You don't mind, someone looking for a specific address and find the error for you? And if all of you came and spent some time together you look for to detain him by force? And then call it "love"?

Love is not possessive and not calculated. "Maybe she will if I promise him this or give him this." I'll tell you: it is better not to stay! If he stays for you to provide something in return, he does not remain for you, but for something. Your relationship can be studied in economic Sciences. For that you paid the tax to the state.
If you even now and saying "I love you", I urge you very carefully. Because it is sublime, "I love you" may contain the following 2 viruses:

- I belong to you. I'm yours.
- You belong to me. You own.

If this is your case, you need emergency treatment. These drugs, I collected called awareness. Learn why you want to become someone's property or why you want to possess someone. What I do not like you in such as for yourself? Obviously, You don't feel happy and satisfied with yourself, and you need someone to distract you from your being. You're afraid to sit face to face with himself. You escape in the relationship, which to stick a label noble love.

The creature let yourself be possessed becomes the object. Possessiveness is an expression of fear, and fear is born from ignorance. When you feel happy and satisfied, you like a natural way, just as you breathe. Love is a kind of breathing of a free soul. You will not succeed than to be embarrassed and said, "get out of here. This is my air.” similarly, you're pathetic, thinking that the other belongs to you and that You can't survive without it. You can live very well if you have enough patience to identify and transform possessiveness. No, I was not wrong. Possessiveness can be converted. A possessive, on the contrary, a big fan.

To master it we need to know. To know to perform this conversion is one of the highest human possibilities. If you live possessiveness to the end, without having to deny or repress, she begins to transform. Her energy start to climb, within your being. Don't just become love, I will immediately climb to the floor emotionally. It can stop at the floor below, in the area of good position. "Oh my God, this can't be more stupid than this?" Have fun at your expense. Your freedom has increased. If you have to laugh at his own foolishness, you have done an extraordinary imaginative leap.

These things seem simple when you read them in a book. To work with you! Possessiveness and her sister, jealousy, love paralyzed. Take care of them! Go to the monastery very easy. Is it worth to you than the train. But to love and not to be possessive, to love and not be jealous, it's a great achievement.