Hello hive family. 

Today I want to share my thoughts with you guys.
I was traveling to Yenagoa, the capital territory of Bayelsa State, somewhere in Nigeria. On my way, the car I entered, there was a little debate about how hard the country has become and how people can no longer feed their kids properly.

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According to one of the ladies in the car, she said — and I quote — “My husband only pays the children’s school fees but doesn’t give enough money for maintenance like he used to.” This woman is a stay-at-home mother of two who just stays at home while her husband works so hard to keep up with the affairs of the entire family.
On the other hand, there was another lady complaining that her kids have been at home because her husband doesn’t pay their school fees, and her salary isn’t enough to manage the affairs of the household. She wanted to report him to the authorities. She is a mother of four and is heavily pregnant wi th the fifth child, so she has to take maternity leave.  

Mind you, the first lady — the one complaining about her husband not giving her enough money — doesn’t eat a particular meal twice. By that, I mean she doesn’t repeat meals. For instance, if she prepares rice in the morning and there are leftovers, she’ll rather trash it than keep or microwave it for another time. Lol. She prefers freshly made food, and now she has passed that principle down to her children. It’s a family rule — well, except for her husband, because according to her, he prefers soup that has stayed overnight. In his defense, it tastes better the next day. And truth be told, I second him, because it really does taste sweeter.

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So how can someone not like to eat it? Well, that’s for her family to judge.
Life can really be complicated sometimes. Tell me why someone is rejecting another person’s prayer point. By that, I mean the second lady — the one who could barely afford food for her kids and now has to stay at home without getting paid. The big question is: how will she feed her children now that she’s on leave and her husband is not helping matters?
The argument continued until I could no longer take it. Probably because I had started developing a serious headache due to all the shouting. So I turned to the first woman and asked her a very simple but delicate question.
I asked her how much her husband earns monthly. She said roughly five hundred thousand naira (₦500,000). I then asked her what school her children attend. It turned out her kids were attending one of the biggest and most expensive schools in Yenagoa, and the school fees were ₦170,000 each.

Then I asked how much her husband gives her for family upkeep. She said about ₦300,000 — but it’s still not enough, and she wanted more money. So I asked if he gives her any money for her personal allowance. She said yes, just ₦200,000.
Now at this point, the questions were already annoying her, so I paused for a second. That was when I realized that everyone in the car was quiet, waiting for me to finish. But me, on the other hand, just wanted peace and quiet for the rest of my journey.
The suspense was so strong.
Then I asked her again, “How much did you say your husband’s salary is?” It was then she realized that her husband was spending more than his salary — and yet it felt to her like he wasn’t doing enough.
After some minutes of silence, she got the answer she needed.

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Then I turned to the second lady and asked what kind of work she does. She said she’s a teacher in a private school. I didn’t want to ask her any more questions, so I just told her that after she delivers this baby, she should focus more on taking care of the children she already has and avoid adding more.
She paused for a second and said, “My husband loves many children. That’s why I keep birthing them.”
Then I asked her, “Is he taking care of them well?” She said, “No.”
And I replied, “That answers your question.”
She smiled firmly without utteringa word, and that was how I left them with their thoughts leaving the car calm and quiet. But for real though— do

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 people still waste money and birth many kids in this kind of economy??
What’s your thoughts on this? 
Anyways, thanks for reading through.

All images are mine.