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Professor Mehtab Khanam of the Department of Education and Counseling Psychology Department of Dhaka University. He will give you the possible solutions to your mental problems. Put your problem in a few words.

Problem

I am 17 years old Suffering from a childhood crisis. I'm not sure if I see anything stupid around me I like being very tidy. If someone is dirty, then we use them badly. Many people are angry about this, say bad things. Then I can not put any mind in any way.

Although it is clear sometimes hands are not clear. I used to wash my hands frequently. Often the pages of the book It seems that there is no essential thing inside. Repeat tables and books in the table. I am suffering from many such problems. That's why my education is completely upset. I do not have any special issues with my family. I do not even tell anyone about these problems myself. Is there any way out?

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Suggestions

You are suffering from anxiety and depression at the same time. In childhood, you were asked to make everything very well. If any mistake was criticized. Or it may be that, if you do not do anything well, then a family member is worried or angry. Apart from this, if someone from the family of a father or mother is suffering from depression, then we may also be inclined to have such tendency.

How your thinking world will be affected, it becomes part of personality since childhood. Because of this, you can not control the behavior even after trying. Maybe you do not want others to abuse others if they are unclean, but you can not keep yourself free in any way.

When they are criticizing this again, your self-esteem and self-esteem are being damaged. You have cleanliness and tidiness, and you do the same thing again and again without seeing the solution to get out of these psychic. But it's not going to happen anymore, but it's going to rotate even more into this vicious circle.

This illness is called an abdominal compulsive disorder. This is a psychological condition that is extremely painful. Unfortunately, other members of the family can not quite understand at all.

Do not blame yourself at least as long as you wish and do not behave like that. Maybe you are trying to read by force, but if you are so uncomfortable within the mind then it is not possible to study properly. The thoughts that work in the part of the disorder in this illness are the fear of bacterial infection, the tendency to attack someone, the desire to hurt the near and dear ones, and think that there will be any harm to themselves. The compulsive behaviors that happen after that are to keep on counting, counting, to keep extra cleanliness, to keep things unnecessary, pressure people around to keep clean, to make everything more organized than necessary, dear people Whether it is safely, whether it is repeatedly asked.

What you can do to help yourself is that you are not worried about the issues that you are worried about, physical exercise every day, walking and running, meeting with people, making rules for at least 15 to 30 minutes of your daily routine. , Delaying compulsive behaviors. For example, if the door of the house was not closed, then think about what the door was like after writing it off, writing the thoughts that came in the head, and instead planning to give time to these thoughts at one time, rather than stopping the unhealthy thoughts.

If we stop thinking about it, they will get more and more because they get them, but our subconscious mind has lost interest on it. But I would say, you take help of a psychotherapist for this. If he asks you to go to a psychiatrist and consult a medicines, then do that too. Tell the family that they take this issue seriously. If physically ill, but parents take the children to the doctor exactly, similarly we will also have to take steps for mental illness.

You are very young, there is a complete future ahead. It will take much longer to be cured if the treatment is delayed. If you receive treatment now, it will be easier for you to overcome it.