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We spend time thinking about what we want.  It runs through our brains, generally distracts our effectiveness in differing areas of life.  Maybe at work, even at home with your family, when you are out with your friends.  

In this space, I am guessing most of you reading this have made unrealistic returns in buying different crypto's.  This has caused an excitement for you, where you now start thinking about it all the time.  You have probably had friends or co-workers get annoyed with you talking about it.  There is a slight distraction in your life because you are excited.  

If you are a kid, you probably played a video game or got your first pokemon deck.  Then you think about it at school, at night, dream about it and all you want to do it is play the game, or get more cards....or whatever it is.  

With all these things that stir up our hearts, they often come and go as a fling.  An exciting obsession for a period of time that fades.   We generally lack the ability to think through how this passion or excitement can actually build out value in our lives.  It requires effort, vision, and discipline to see ahead what you actually want, and build out your life for this exciting fling to become an integral part that brings value to your life.

I find the same thing for marriages.  

## Don't Let Your Marriage Be a Fling ##
Coming home from a honeymoon can be one of those times of distracting excitement.  Bringing your first kid home from the hospital.  Building or buying a new house that you have been hoping for.  These can be incredible times in your marriage.  

But what about all the other times?  When bills are due, when your roof leaks, when you find our your kid is acting like a bully at school, when your spouse is being a jerk because he/she is stressed.  

Marriage like any of these distractions can ebb and flow in its excitement, and can be difficult to have a marriage that stays as a consistent, powerful, fulfilling aspect of your life.  So how do we do it? 

# You have to envision it # 
Like anything you have to see it, think forward for what you want it to become, and make a gameplan to achieve it.  
(even when you have to deal with an attitude like this)
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My wife and I just got back from a kid free week at an all-inclusive stay in the Caribbean celebrating our 10 year anniversary.  Our most difficult decision was sushi or fresh fruit...it was awesome.  

But the question that really drove our connection over the week was:
"What Do You Want the Next 10 Years of marriage to Look Like?"

We spent the week dialoguing, dreaming, hoping, and planning what type of disciplines we would need to implement into our lives to achieve a marriage that we both are dreaming of.  It was incredible.  It created that excitement coming back home, which has not fade nor do I think it will.  We have been able to connect and begin implementing what's needed to build a marriage over the next decade that increases intimacy, the influence of our family, and the impact on our city.  

So how is married life for you?  I encourage you to talk with your spouse about what it is that you want out of your marriage.  What do you want your lives to look like at 5, 10 or 20 years into marriage.  What kind of impact do you want coming off of your lives and how it impacts those around you.   

Whatever it is, it takes time and effort to put it into place, but it starts with building a vision of what you want.  Take your marriage from the ebbs and flows of excitement/discouragement to a powerful force of life for you, your family and those around you.  

Live Big and Choose Greatness