COUPLE: INFLUENCE RATHER THAN CHANGE
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0.000 HBDCOUPLE: INFLUENCE RATHER THAN CHANGE
Hey lovelies 😍 It's your favorite girl @debbie-ese ❤️ Welcome to my blog 🤗  <a href="https://www.freepik.com/free-photo/joyful-carefree-dark-skinned-millennial-couple-take-selfie-modern-cellphone-man-points-display-with-happy-laugh-make-photo-themselves_13300443.htm#page=2&query=African%20couple&position=3">source</a> So many people have dashed out of their marriage when their expectations are not met, they get frustrated out of the union due to what they felt would be the situation and the reverse happens to be the case. There are men/women who beat their husband/wife, drinks heavily day in day out, stingy and careless about their partner during the dating/courting period and the other partner would be hoping he or she will change when they get married or become more matured but it doesn't turn out that way and eventually leads to the end of the relationship.  <a href="https://www.freepik.com/free-photo/woman-turns-from-husband-has-sullen-expression-wears-dressing-gown-being-angry-after-hearing-insulting-words-pose-bed-sort-out-relationships_15108134.htm#page=1&query=Angry%20African%20couple&position=9">source</a> Change is something that has to do with making a personal decision and determining to effect the change. Human beings do not change easily unless they make the decision to do so. In fact, some people get worse by the day the more you try to make efforts to change them. It is advisable that if you are not married yet, do not settle with someone who have some traits that you do not like and wish to change because this may be the beginning of the end of that marriage if eventually the person does not change. It is better to prevent the somewhat obvious heartbreak or trauma by making the decision right from the early stages of your relationship when you notice characters or behaviors you cannot cope with. However, you have to bear in mind that there is no perfect human being. We all have our flaws, weak points and we are prone to making mistakes. Why not accept people the way they are rather than hoping that they will change to what you want them to be.  <a href="https://www.freepik.com/free-photo/joyful-carefree-dark-skinned-millennial-couple-take-selfie-modern-cellphone-man-points-display-with-happy-laugh-make-photo-themselves_13300443.htm#page=2&query=African%20couple&position=3">source</a> Furthermore, if you are married, don't make the mistake so many people have made that resulted in the end of their marriage - don't make attempts to change your husband or wife. You may push him or her off when you consistently show that you feel that what they do or how they do it is not right. This may lead to your husband or your wife not showing or expressing themselves to you, thereby limiting the level of communication. While others may have pilled up the anger in them and burst out when they cannot accommodate it anymore, thereby leading to domestic violence. And to cap it all, it may end divorce, separation or an absolutely unhappy marriage. If you do not like someone's behavior, habit or way of life, you can influence them through your own way of life rather than trying to change them. ##### Thank you for your time lovelies. ##### The post is originally written by me 💕@debbie-ese💕  ##### Your comments, criticism and votes are highly appreciated.
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