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It's Valentine's Days in some parts of our known Universe today, an opportunity for many people to regurgitate consumerist habits and try to prove their "love" with expensive gifts. 

For unknown reasons, though, the only image that popped up to my mind when I thought about "love" was the one above.

Before clicking on to it, let me tell you a bit more about it (hint: although it looks like it's a movie, it isn't, it's just a screenshot, the movie from which it's taken will be embedded further down).

The picture comes from a TED talk, one that I recently saw. And the role of the image was to point something so obvious, yet so easily forgettable: love is never _in the outer object_. Love is inside. Love is never happening "outside", it's merely an outside materialization of inside propensities and yearnings.

What we perceive as being "outside", the triggers of our internal responses, are merely images on a wall. Most of them far more accurate than the wall drawing above, but, ultimately, they're just moving pictures on a screen. A screen onto which our mind projects feelings that we agree to consider "real". They're not, but we agree to their "intrinsic reality" to such a point that we start to suffer and get ill because of them.

So, most of the time, if we complain that "the other" doesn't get us, doesn't understand us, doesn't reciprocate our feelings or doesn't fulfill our expectations, it's because "the other" is merely a picture on a wall, to which we're nervously - and most of the time, ridiculously - trying to get its smell.

If you want to spend 12 minutes of today celebrating love, I highly suggest you to watch this TED talk. 
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xr6VawX2nr4
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_I'm a serial entrepreneur, blogger and ultrarunner. You can find me mainly on my blog at [Dragos Roua](http://dragosroua.com) where I write about productivity, business, relationships and running. Here on Steemit you may stay updated by following me @dragosroua._
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