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*How often do you remind yourself of the things you have to do? How important are these things to you?* *How often do you have to remind yourself to stop what is bad for you?* *What would your life be like if you were very intentional about fixing the problems around you?*

*If we really loved ourselves, would this be a big problem?* Why do we struggle with this concept when it comes to ourselves, but when it comes to other people we love, we can show up for them, keep our promises, tell them to stop drinking or smoking or fix the problems they have, but when we ask that much from ourselves, it becomes harder to do.

People are more likely to take their pets to the **veterinarian** than they are to seek help for themselves. In fact, in one study, they found that people who have pets are more likely to delay their treatment if it meant that they would be leaving their pet behind.

Treating yourself as though you were someone you were responsible for caring for. This is called **self-compassion**. Be aware of your suffering, be knowledgeable of the way it presents itself, and don’t push back on helping yourself. This is the concept of carrying one's cross.

Life is hard enough as it is when we don’t have to worry about other people, but it becomes increasingly difficult when you cannot carry your own weight, and you have to depend on others to help you survive.

Some people have come to associate **self-love** with pampering at the spa, with weird spa oils and facials…while all that is good, it does not address the complex problems. Sometimes showing that you love yourself will not be a planned situation.

Another misconception people have is that discipline has to do with punishment, restriction, and rigidity. But when it comes to *personal growth, well-being, and happiness, discipline can be a powerful tool for cultivating **self-love and self-respect***.

In this post, I want us to look at the ways in which the self-indulging concept of **self-love** can be, in many ways, related to the concept of **self-discipline**.

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# <center>What is your worth?</center>
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A lot of times, people say "know your worth" to refer to individuals in relationships where the other person does not treat them with love or respect. But, in some ways, lowered self-worth starts with how we treat ourselves.

*If you really love yourself, why are you eating that? If you really love yourself, why can't you find time to exercise? If you really love yourself, why are you drinking so much alcohol? Why are you participating in self-sabotage? Do you not love yourself*


When you make choices that do not align with your goals and values because of the pain of sacrifice, you are telling yourself a story about what you are worth... You are not the only person listening to the story you are telling yourself.

If you are going to love yourself to the fullest and blossom into a version of yourself you can respect, you need to exercise self-**discipline**. **Discipline** has a lot of benefits in the long run rather than what is expedient.

In a way, by not achieving the goals that you set out to achieve, you are saying that you are not worthy of them. **Happiness**, in the long run, will depend greatly on priorities.

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# <center>Your goals</center>
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I remember trying to learn how to type faster and searching online and seeing recommendations that all I needed to do was practice 10 to 20 minutes daily, and I would be typing at a faster rate. Those requirements always seem like a lie at first, but with time, you start to realize how true they can be.

At first, it was just the Home keys "ASDFJKL;" then it got to the point where I could hit every key with the right finger, but I realized I was slow at typing both ways... I wasn't who I was before, and I was not fast at typing like a pro.

It's either I turn back now and go back to my slow manageable speed of typing or I go into a world that is new to me but is filled with promise. So, I decided to keep going, and now I can spit out 34 words a minute.

Because I set out time to learn to type faster, I can write posts like this that help me structure my thoughts and what I believe in.

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In the same manner, discipline is very important for achieving goals, whether it's losing weight, quitting smoking, or learning other skills. Discipline means building a plan that is **specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART)**.

Following through with the plan is the only way to see results. On the way to achieving these personal feats, you build self-confidence for other endeavors in your life.

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# <center>Mental Health</center>
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Besides the goals that are external and in sight for everyone, self-discipline is important for building good patterns of behavior that regulate emotions, thoughts, and behavior.

By having discipline when it comes to sleep, eating, and exercise, you develop a shield against anxiety, depression, and stress.

[In one study](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10880-018-9593-4) that included 43 women who were depressed and assigned to groups where one group did intense exercise, another group did relaxation exercises, and a third group did nothing for 10 weeks, they asked the women about their depression levels for the 10-week period and also afterward.


The results showed that intense exercise helped the first group get fitter, and they were less depressed than those who did relaxation exercises and did nothing.

As stated before, many people seem to associate acts of discipline with punishments and strict rules, but by simply following through with the important habits of *sleep, eating right, and getting exercise, you can prevent obesity, heart disease, and diabetes, which can lead to chronic diseases*.

People who are chronically ill suffer from depression because of the feelings of pain, fatigue, and difficulty sleeping associated with these conditions. They also cannot socialize with people as much as they would like to, and the condition is a financial burden on those who suffer from these conditions while reducing their earning potential.

There is an argument that some people who indulge in unhealthy behavior do not know the extent to which these acts can be detrimental to their health, but in countries that have better educational standards, heart disease continues to plague their society.

*The role of discipline is widespread and should not be underestimated.*

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# <center>Developing Self-Discipline</center>
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**Self-discipline** is the act of controlling one's behavior and actions so that it is streamlined towards a goal and a specific path. Having **self-discipline** is not a one-day process; it takes time and needs consistency, effort, and patience.

There are ways you can develop discipline for yourself over time.


It starts with having a **definable goal**, knowing what this goal will look like on a day-to-day basis, what it will look like in the long run, and making sure this goal is achievable. When you make goals that are realistic, it is also important to have a deadline for the completion of the task. This way, you can be held accountable to the task at hand.

By not having **short-term and long-term goals**, you are setting yourself up for failure and forgetfulness. If possible, write down these goals somewhere you can see them so that you can revitalize your motivation towards achieving them.

Having a sequence of activities that align with your goal is also very important. A routine for when you sleep, wake up, eat, and exercise will set you up for successful goal completion, especially when they help you along the way. Eating right helps you sleep right, which helps you achieve the specific results you want at the gym, and that will keep depression and anxiety away.

Having time to reassess the situation within the day or week is also very important so that you know if important changes need to be made. This is why meditation is also very important, so that you can declutter yourself from all the noise full thoughts that may come in the way of helpful thinking.

One key part of self-discipline is self-accountability. Can you stay in front of the mirror and see your flaws? It is very important for you to be able to do so that you can fix them. In order to do this, you have to track the progress as you go along the way. It is also very helpful to have a mentor or a partner who is watchful of your behavior and does not allow you to slack.

Staying focused on the goal and building resilience will help you get back on the wheel whenever you fall off. It is very important to remember that if the process is not challenging enough for you, then you will never fail while trying to achieve those goals. If you are not challenging yourself, you will have a tendency to either drop your standards or leave the whole process altogether.



*What are your thoughts on discipline?* When you hear the word, what comes to your mind? Do you see discipline as a powerful tool to propel you towards knowing your self-worth and building love for yourself, or are you still seeing yourself as a tyrant that is not worthy of love?

Are you developing discipline for yourself? Do your choices align with your goals and values? Don’t you think you are worth the investment? What better message could there be than to tell yourself you are worthy of love, care, and protection?

If you struggle with self-discipline,do you have goals you want to accomplish and find it hard to achieve them?
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# <center>Conclusion</center>
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In conclusioni, the concept of self-love is often associated with indulging oneself in superficial things like spa treatments, but true self-love is about treating yourself with the same level of care and compassion that you would offer to someone you love.

Self-discipline is an important aspect of self-love as it helps you achieve your goals, build self-confidence, and regulate your emotions, thoughts, and behavior.


By developing discipline in areas such as sleep, eating, exercise, and personal growth, you can prevent chronic diseases and shield yourself against anxiety, depression, and stress. Remember, you are the only one responsible for your own happiness and well-being, and self-discipline is the key to unlocking your full potential.


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*What does self-discipline mean to you and how do you practice it in your life? How do you differentiate self-love from self-indulgence?*

*In what ways do you think lowered self-worth starts with how we treat ourselves? Can you give an example of a time when discipline helped you achieve a personal goal?*

*How do you maintain good patterns of behavior that regulate your emotions, thoughts, and behavior? Do you think self-discipline is important for mental health? Why or why not?*


*What are some challenges you face when it comes to being disciplined in your life? How do you prioritize your goals and make sure they align with your values?*

*In what ways can self-compassion help with practicing self-discipline? How do you think we can teach children the importance of self-discipline and self-love?*






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# <center>References</center>
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- [Springer](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10880-018-9593-4)
- [Psycnet](https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1984-26469-001)
- [Meaning Ful Life](https://www.meaningfullife.com/how-to-practice-self-discipline-with-self-love/)