:) HaHa, I like it when you put a Blah Blah Blah behind your sentences. Shows your humor. 

> From one angle, I could see that as an unrealistic aim.

And it probably is. So it's always a pick and see, no? I try to go by the way you mentioned here. Oftentimes I am able to do that, more than the other way around. The thing is, I feel, that I am holding myself back when I question another person and assume, he or she might not do me the same favor. That's the aggravating component in social contact. Trying to still learn to stay true. 

Blessings!