Dear steemians,
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## Today I want to tell you about my second resolution of the year 2018.
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If you want to know what was the first, here are my others posts:
[- My first resolution 2018: stop negative thinking 1/2](https://steemit.com/life/@flamingirl/my-first-resolution-2018-stop-negative-thinking-1)
[- My first resolution 2018: stop negative thinking 2/2](https://steemit.com/life/@flamingirl/my-first-resolution-2018-stop-negative-thinking-2-2)
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We hear all the time talk about happiness and advice to access it. I do not pretend to have the solution. But I share with you a little of my story. In 30 years of life, I learned things and if I can bring my experience to some people, so why not ;).
And if you too want to share about this topic, I invite you to write me a comment. I do not promise to answer in the day but I do my best :)
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A few years ago, I watched this movie "The Help". It's a fantastic movie, I recommend it! This film takes place in Mississippi, during the 60s. It's the story of three women that everything had to oppose and who will finally make an incredible friendship. This film talks about the most sensitive social conventions and racism. From this unlikely alliance will be born an extraordinary solidarity and strong bonds between people. He moved me a lot especially for the relationship between a maid who takes care of a little girl. And she tells her every day this:
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[film's extract "The Help"](https://youtu.be/3H50llsHm3k)
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>  **"You are nice, you are smart, you are important".**

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This sentence really inspired me and I wrote it in a notebook. I write things in this notebook, which seem important to me to remember in difficult times ...
It helps me, for example, not to forget to congratulate myself. And yes, it may sound pretentious but not at all! Self-esteem is the basis and we should not wait for it to come from others.
### Compliment yourself every day, is good for health! ;)
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You are unique and if someone tells you the opposite, ask yourself why this person tells you. And why do you let people say it ...
If you wish, you can read my two posts I quoted above. Because they talk about not letting negative people get into your life and hurt you.
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In my opinion, stopping thinking negatively also depends on the choice you make of people around you. There are toxic people, unfortunately ... And I know what I'm talking about ...
### Sometimes it's necessary to scan and choose healthier relationships.
We only have one life my friends, why waste time with toxic people?
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### We can help others become better. On one condition: to be at peace with yourself.
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*FlaminGirl in Montserrat (Spain)*
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And to be at peace with yourself, self-esteem is essential, isn't it?
In any case, that's what I believe.
Having self-confidence, self-esteem and being congratulated each day can help you be happy. In the same way as surrounding us with people who value and support us.
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I am only at the beginning of this long path to inner peace ...
Now I know some effective ways to get there. The most difficult thing is to be regular. But it will come ;) Step by step.
First, I select my relationships and then I move on!
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#### If you liked this post, do not hesitate to vote, reestem or comment. I will post the the second part, very soon so stay connected! ;)
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