There was this time in my life where I thought that  in order to be successful or to be happy in life, it was chasing people. Maybe people that had it or people that I wish. Chasing approval, chasing that friendship or even forcing that love. Sometimes I would just bend over trying to please others hoping that the friend notice me and appreciate what I do. But you know what happened? It never worked. The more I chased, the more people ran away from me. The more effort I put into being seen, the more as if I am invisible or my effort is going in vain.

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One day I had this simple thought and realization that nothing good ever comes from chasing people or trying to make friends with others. The moment you start chasing, you automatically put yourself dow

n. You are telling yourself that you're not complete on your own. You need validation to feel whole and complete. But that's not how resources should be. People can sense your desperation and opportunities too. So the world does not reward those who judge by competition. It rewards those who decide to create their own kind of life.

 I stopped chasing. It was time for me to focus on myself, my good, the peace and my good. So I began to read things. I began to work on myself, taking better care of my mind and my body. And with time things began to change. The people I once wanted to impress started reaching out to me. I wanted to learn things from me. Opportunity started to reveal itself to me. I began to show up naturally. It was as if the universe had waited for me. So that it can unleash itself.

You see why you need to focus more on becoming the best version of yourself. Because that can radiate confidence and respect from others. You no longer have to chase. You attract to your success. You attract respect too. And it seems that people, people that share the same values with you begin to find their way around you. And at this period, you're not begging anybody. You're just attracting them. Because you're someone worthy to be confronted with.

If you're in that situation where it feels like no one sees you or no one is trying to come close to your value or nothing is working, just take a deep breath. Don't chase. It's time to build yourself. Focus more on working on yourself. And at the right time, the right love will co

me. Opportunities will come. But first, you just have to be the best version of yourself. Be ready to build yourself. Change. Work on yourself. Stop chasing. Start working on yourself. And the rest will be history.

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