I came from a not so fortunate family, there is only sticks not carrot. We only get scolding but never a praise. Growing in such event really would affect ones outcome, as in my case I grew up with a depression and pessimistic mind. I remember being angry and full of hatred towards anything or anyone I make contact with. I also remember the days where I feel like doing nothing and all I wanna do just sit there,on my bed and not wanting to live(and at times feels like wanna die). 

The problem with depression is that it takes away all your logical thinking capabilities and you won't ran out of a way to turn anything into a negative view. What's worse is that they(society) are not trained to handle a depressed person, most of the time their good intention ended up making it worse. Only a fellow soul who had been trough it **might** able to enlighten the pain they suffering. 

I remember telling bout how I feel and got shut off brutally. The common response would be like "you're thinking too much/ It's nothing", this is a big no for the depressed person. Instead you might try this "I am here for you/ Anything I could help/ etc". The worst respond would be(in my opinion) "go pray". Like hey, do you ask a person with other sickness like diabetes go pray to fix the issue? Mental sickness is legit and exist, just because one person not as religious doesn't mean they are more likely to get mental sickness.

Just remember that you are there to listen and moral support. It most likely won't be an easy task for the listener because the depressed person most likely won't able to express what they want or feel anymore(depends on the severity). After I opened up bout my depression to my close circle of friend then only they are more understanding on the events where I just suddenly shut off everyone from my life and went missing in action for days,or weeks even months. In my case usually during these periods everything that seems normal to common people could be very dreadful and frightening to us(people with depression). I am lucky to have the most sanguine and warm person to talk to during my depression and how I get to cry with no one judging, it's sick that we judge those who cry during hard times when it is actually healthy to do so. What's wrong with crying? It's a sign that we strong enough to show our emotion. I remember there is one time where I was depressed and I am physically sick(body aching and whatnot),and this is because I couldn't find anyone that I could talk about the problem with(it's complicated story). 

To sum this up, just try to listen more to your depressed friend(s) and partners. Look out for signs of depression. Show some love to them, I find it hilarious that we express hates more openly than we express love. Good luck!

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