[The Aftermath] The Tomes of the woes of distance relationships.
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0.000 HBD[The Aftermath] The Tomes of the woes of distance relationships.
 [Image source](https://wallpaperscraft.com/download/girl_hair_patterns_feelings_line_11342/3840x2160) A friend asked me a few weeks ago "what's the meaning of life to you?" I panicked as I had never really asked myself that question. It took me a few days to soul search and find the single most important thing to me in life. I believe we, as women should as early as possible discover what's important to us in life. It is critical for life decision makings. Once we gain perspective, we must follow our path with razor sharp focus! ##### #Read and #Enjoy <center><center/> [Image Source](http://www.cenornet.club/page/106/) ### The Story I've been with my boyfriend Niyi now for over 7 years. We got together at age 19 and now we are both done with grad school and chasing careers. I have been offered a dream job in Paris. My boyfriend is so supportive and happy for me and he recently asked me to marry him. I was so excited about all the good things happening in my life that I didn't stop to give it a thought. I am happy being his life partner but he is moving back to Nigeria and has a good job working with his dad's maritime logistics company. Our lives are taking separate turns for the next few years but we both want to remain together. Is it advisable for the first years of marriage to be long distance? My mother is staunchly against this and even yelled at me on the phone, "listen, Niyi is a very good catch so don't be foolish enough to think he is going to be longing for you forever....  [Image Source](http://www.guibingzhuche.com/group/women-art-images/) -------------------------------------------------- ....She feels I should come back home and find a job and 'prioritize'. I have goals of starting my own consultancy and I would need at least five years of international work experience. -------------------------------------------------- I also feel I should have something solid to bring to the table. My mom keeps going on about my western mentality, saying that "marriage does not come easy so don't leave it too late." l'm torn between the realities of what my mother is saying, versus the life l've dreamed of after grad school. My Niyi! l'd be devastated to lose him. Will the realities of long distance affect our marriage? They say the first 3-5years of marriage are the most difficult. It sounds to me like I shouldn't place my goals and aspirations above marriage; one must take precedence! -------------------------------------------------- ## Thank you for reading... Stay tuned to The Aftermath. ## @gutzygwin 
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