>Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things. 
**Winston Churchill**

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As part of growing up, criticism is something you cannot avoid.

You will get criticized for making mistakes, because some are jealous, because some have a different view about what you are doing, because some actually do want to help, and some because they just want to see you go down as you do your thing.

In order to make it through the rough roads of criticism, you have to figure out which of them are actually helpful, and do away with those that aren’t.

And most importantly, do it elegantly.


# Never Handle Criticism This Way

If you let it get to you, criticism can take you down. Many get discouraged when they tackle criticism and they give up easily. We understand that, but why allow the words of a person who is having a bad day or period prevent you from doing something great? What did you think would have happened if Shakespeare quit writing in his first period because part of the audience laughed at him? Or that President Muhammad Buhari just gave up because people are not happy with the fuel situation in Nigeria?

Instead most people respond to criticism by lashing out in anger, or they attack, become more defensive and aggressive.

That’s not a good way to respond to criticism and it’s the worse way to retaliate. If you are mad, you don’t tell them to fuck off, attack them, blame them for your misfortunes, denying any mistake you made, and add petrol to the flames by jampacking your mistakes with more mistakes. It’s more preferable just to keep quiet.

# Keep Doing What You Do Best

Never allow criticism prevent you from moving foward. If a person tells you that your work sucks, keep doing it. Make it the best. Find those do do it well and study them and make it in your own way and let it have your personal touch. Be unique by being honest and always telling and seeking the truth when no one else admits it.

Do a lot of amazing things and contribute to the world and make a your own version

Move to places and do something differnt and unique. Don’t do it because everyone is doing it. Here is an idea:

If you find yourself in a late and swimming with other fishes, swim the opposite way. They have no idea where they are going eitherways.

Find something amazing to do and don’t be shy to share with the world. Criticism is a necessity but most attimes it drags down those aiming to do amazing things. Do not let it prevent you from your shine

# How to Handle Criticism Wisely

Always calm down before you respond. Responding to critics in anger is a very very very bad idea. Let me make it more clear

***Never Respond ever to a Critic in Anger***

Reflect on yourself why was the criticism made. Is this person trying to help me, help me avoid mistakes, or help me make grow and improve on myself? Is this person just in a furious foul mood, just having a field bad day? Is the person envious and jealous? Or just mean? Is there any valid reason for the criticism?

Forget about the motivation, just reflect on yourself if there was a valid reason for the criticism. If there really is, you won’t let that get you down, instead you use it to grow. Always admit that you cannot be perfect at what you are doing, and it’s not everything that you can get exactly right and that you still have plenty of room for improvement. 

Thank the one who gave the criticism because sometimes it can come from a heart that really do want to help you. And that gesture is a very kind thing to do and it requires courage. Be very grateful for that. Even in the case where they weren’t trying to be helpful, they took their time to respond to you and for them to get a response is far better than a relative silence. For you to have done something that made a reaction means you have done something captivating and that is reason to be thankful. Anyways, thanking them is a very positive exchange.

If you have to respond, do so calmly and delligently. Don’t be defensive, rather be honest. Share your own views, and if there is any valid reason in the persons point, acknowlegde it and have a rational conclusion instead of being very defensive about the way you do things.

If you cannot be rational, just stay silent, don’t respond at all. Silence is a far graceful response than lashing out in anger or being defensive or being a quitter.

Now that you have responded wisely, you can now carry on with the amazing things you are doing.