Assertive communication is a key tool to achieve success in our relationships of friendship, partner, work and family. Being assertive implies being firm in our decisions, without letting other people decide for us or ignore what we think, our ideas and values.

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As we know, communication is one of the essential pillars for a happy relationship, so we must always seek ways to encourage and optimize it to express our ideas, whether positive or negative, and our feelings in an honest and transparent way.

Assertive communication is a skill, so through practice we can communicate in a more efficient way that helps us improve the relationship we have with other people and that is successful.

Our dose today aims to give you some tips to achieve it.

Practice active listening: focus on listening to understand the other person, instead of listening to respond.
Do not judge or put labels: recognize the differences. Do not think you are right, think you have your own criteria.
Speak in first person: do not generalize.
Practice self-knowledge: know your purposes and objectives.
Use extraverbal language: you can transmit positive emotions, increase compression and get feedback
Keep your emotions at bay: you can not avoid your emotions, but you can control how you react to them.
Be empathetic: if you put yourself in the other's place, it is easier to communicate.
Be educated: to achieve assertive communication you have to know how to be and be.
It is obvious that to be an assertive communicator, you must pay attention to yourself. Recognizing yourself is the first step in not letting yourself be carried away by emotions or judging others.

Listening to be able to argue and be coherent is equally important, since it is the simplest way to be empathetic and educated when we want to transmit a message or make respect our ideas.

All these tips can help you increase your understanding and effectively and assertively convey your ideas and emotions.

Watch this Debra Fox's video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rxO7wjl4Vbo