"To find yourself first learn about yourself" I read this quote somewhere in online. Yes we need to find who we are first. Then you become self-sufficient and do things for yourself, for once. It's a hard feeling to put into words, but when you don't know who you are, it's hard to ignore.

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**1. Waking Your Conscious**
*Create your own life timeline*
Write down all of your major goals that you feel you have achieved and want to achieve.

*Distinguish your thoughts from the thoughts of others*
Society has a very covert way of handing us the "misfits", condemning the "losers", idolizing the "beautiful", alienating the "strange." But here's a heads up: 

*Start relying on yourself*
 Confidence and reliance are at the heart of finding yourself. If you don't have a solid sense of self-worth, you'll listen to what others have to say all the time and to be swayed by their insistence on what is appropriate

*Prepare to begin again with a clean slate*
Develop your own moral conduct and practice sticking to it. Start by overcoming bad habits.

*Organize your world*
You may find that having all your other affairs in order will help expedite the process to grabbing a firm hold on your identity.

**2. Conquering Your World**
*Immerse yourself in solitude*
Every person needs time alone, whether they're introverted or extroverted, single or in a relationship, young or old.

*Seek out a passion*
The key here is to realize that it doesn't matter what it is. It could be preventing child hunger or it could be painting.

*Find a mentor*
A support system is key to any self-improvement tactic.

*Sort out your career path*
Spend some time free-associating

**3. Changing Your Perspective**
*Let go of the need to be loved by all*
Accept that some people will think poorly of you no matter what you do.

*Abandon the negative*
Make a conscious effort to minimize judging — others, objects, and yourself.

*Question yourself*
"Who am I?" This question is not static. It should be one you continue to ask yourself throughout your life

**4. Settling In for Good**
*Act upon — and use — your newly discovered knowledge*
the real you is too afraid to face the practicalities because it'd mean facing up to what you've limited yourself by. Start planning what you really want to do and investigating what needs to be done to get you to that point instead of flinging excuses at them, stopping the goals and dreams dead in their tracks

*Be ready for dead ends*
Finding yourself is a journey, not a destination. A lot of it is trial and error.

*Serve others*
"the best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others." 

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