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Over the years I have seen people bite and tear themselves up over things that really shouldn’t be. Yes, I know that sometimes it really comes natural for one to want to hate himself/herself for something they did wrong to someone or something they caused to happen to someone, but really? Is it worth it?
You need to ask yourself some very pertinent questions, one of the most important being:
>Would it really help my situation?

Most say it’s rather wicked to not feel some sort of remorse after doing someone wrong, I get that, but remember you all believe that it’s okay to **feel** remorseful not **live** remorseful. This is where many miss it; this wrong deed of theirs now defines their entire existence, making it almost impossible for them to move beyond a self-imposed impasse. Bear in mind that I am in no way being insensitive to the fact that they have done something wrong. 
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So you feel remorseful and then you apologize to the person you offended. Now this person forgives you but for some reason you still cannot bring yourself to forgive YOU. Tell yourself the truth, each time you relieve that bad experience you never ever feel any better for it and if you have lived long enough it will begin to color your view about life in general. 
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Yes I definitely know that there are extreme cases where your actions led to the permanent loss of the relationship with the person; maybe the person left for good or maybe the person died and left this earth leaving you no chance at an apology. The fact still remains, the deed is done. Who you become after that event is totally dependent on you. You can choose to **feel remorseful** then learn from that experience and move on or you decide to let the moment replay over and over in your subconscious, thereby **living remorseful**. 
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In life we sometimes have no control over the things that happen to us, but believe me when I say this:
>Who you become after a bad experience is totally dependent on you.   
  –Klyn
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### Live Happy
### Make mistakes 
### Unlearn the wrong things
## Truly live.
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#### yours truly @klynic
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