Most times the things we really want are the things that we are afraid of the most. You could find yourself wanting to ask a girl out but for some reason you are so afraid she will say no. Your heart pounds at the site of her, because you feel you will get rejected. The truth is that, rejection is not the end of the world.

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We end up living a sub-standard life, not because we are created sub-standard but because we have chosen to let out fears control our destiny. We are afraid to take the bull by the horn, so we end living uninteresting lives. When we sit down to write a book on ourselves we end with nothing to write, because we have chosen to settle for the mundane. When you go out on a date, and you are asked: "can you tell me about yourself?” you struggle with what to say because you do the same thing day in day out. From where we are seated we know that life has a lot to offer, but we don't take advantage of the opportunities life presents to us daily. 

I remember when I joined steemit, one of the fears I had was not knowing what to write about. I felt no one was interested in what I had to say, so after registering I didn't post anything for some time. It took some self-motivation and encouragement from my friends before I decided to pen down my first introductory post. To my surprise I had a decent amount of votes and some encouraging comments and that motivated me to write more. Sometimes when I go back to read that post it surprises me how I was able to overcome my fear to write something so honest. 

You don't have to be ruled by your fears, because you will end up living an average life. You must be conscious of the fact failure is an inevitable part of the learning process, you can't avoid it if you want to succeed in life. I have failed so many times in life, but in each failure I found lessons that helped grow and become wiser.  So what do we do since failure is inevitable - we learn to overcome it and keep moving forward. 

Will smith had this to day about fear:  
> The things you want the most are placed on the other side of your fear.  

This simply means that if we patiently navigate through our fears we will arrive at a point where the door to happiness will be unlocked for us and we can live a happy and fulfilled life. Your fear could be stopping you from starting a business, applying for that dream job, writing that great story or even talking to that girl. However, once you are able to overcome your fear and achieve that which your heart desires, and you will begin to feel a sense of relief. 

## How to overcome your fear
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The first thing you need to when you want to overcome your fear is to write down what you want to achieve and why you are afraid of doing it. Take some time to examine yourself then ask why you want it so badly, and write down the reason.

The next thing you need to do is look for someone you trust and tell him/her about your fears and what you hope to achieve. Make sure this person is wise enough to give proper advice. You could see a professional counselor if you don't have someone close you can talk to. 

The next and the most important step is to finally face your fears. It is at this point that you have to eventually take that bold step. When doing this have it at the back of your mind that it might not turn out the way you expect, so don't feel so bad because you cannot determine the outcome. So if it turns out to favor you, then consider yourself lucky, then if doesn't - try again. Most people expect to succeed in their first try and when they don't, they get frustrated and they decide to quit. When you take that bold step, you will feel the fear vanish and you will no longer feel like you are under the control of your fear. 

In overcoming your fear, it’s always better to have a mentor, look for someone who is matured, understands life better and has been able to overcome what you are now going through. They will be able to advice you better because their wisdom comes from experience. 

## Finally
I urge you to live your best life now, tomorrow has no guarantees, so all you have is today. Decide today that you will want it more than you are afraid of it. Irrespective of the situation, find the motivation and the drive to follow through even when it gets difficult.

I challenge you to face your fears, go out there and keep working till you get to the other side of fear where your dreams await. 

As you read this I want you to make yourself a promise that in your lifetime you will not allow fear stop you from getting the things you want in life.

## THANKS FOR READING
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