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    I want to draw your attention to this aspect of our life as an offense. Everyone knows or rather understands what it means to be offended, and most likely have used it in life more than once. After searching on the Internet, I found something about the definition of resentment. Resentment is "feelings" (in this case the word "feeling" is used as a multi-valued* word) caused, not justly caused by grief and insults. Yes ... it's complicated. Is such a child can comprehend, but he also takes offense, sits quietly and "sulks". I do not understand who needs these definitions. If, as an explanation, it is only for mentally retarded people who are not capable of adequate action. So they do not understand. If for children, just by, too, a very complicated explanation, not for years and in the head to the child "will not go." And for an adult, why talk about what is so clear and understandable to everyone. This is probably the basis of all modern sciences, "pour from simple to empty."
Note, if children are able to take offense, then it is necessary to look for the cause in childhood, most likely there is its beginning. It looks very strange when one person, at a distance, is able to cause (although perhaps he is a telepath) to force (another person is not fair) the other person to get upset and be offended. In this case, it is appropriate to recall the episode from the life of Larry Flynt, the publisher of Hustler. In his journal, he published an article and a cartoon depicting a priest performing sexual intercourse with his mother. Venerable, appealed to the court, demanding compensation for moral damage for the insult caused by the article. Larry Flint won the lawsuit. And his main argument was that no one would ever think of that, no one would believe that the monk had a sexual intercourse with his mother. You see, what a thing, the monk was offended, not for the sense, but because he so wanted. Because he thought that there are people who think so, and he mentally allowed it, among other things. The reason for any resentment in us. We decide for ourselves and determine what offends us. We create a precedent, that is, expressing resentment, we agree that what has been said about us is true. Turning to the court, the monk, "as if telling us," that yes, he fucks his mother, but this is his own business and no one has the right to talk about it. Of course, this is not the case and the cause was lost. We, resenting, already confirm this, the BASIS of what has been said about us. If what has been said or done has nothing to do with you, how can it offend you? Maybe if you are hysterical! All these manipulations with grievances are needed to make a person apologize. Waiting we are waiting for an apology! We need an apology, otherwise what's the point in offense.
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With an apology, it's a completely different story. Somehow, my friend, the question of why I should apologize, said: that a man understands what he did. It's very logical, but again if you communicate with a mentally retarded person. In this case, such people do not know what they are doing. Having taken an ax and chopped off your finger, he certainly should apologize. He does not understand and does not know that the new finger will not grow. But all other people are normal and adequate. Really, all that they say and do, leaves at them not meaningfully and without control. I think this is not. If I cut someone's finger, I would do it consciously. If I expected and knew the consequences, then why should I excuse. I did everything right. I did the same. Then why ask for forgiveness? The finger can not be returned. But we will still ask for forgiveness for the severed fingers. The injured person unfairly unfairly suffers - he without a finger. And he begins to take offense. Resentment and grief just overwhelm him. He can be in a state of resentment for a very long time. So he needs to give something to take this condition off the hook. Let's think, that it is possible to give, in contrast to it, close significant. Of course, this humiliation and submission. And our offended, will be satisfied, though forever without a finger.
Yes, asking for forgiveness is tantamount to humiliation. And it happens that they ask forgiveness while on their knees. And this statement speaks about humiliation and submission of the person. The most popular expressions are: "Ask forgiveness on your knees", "I beg you, kneeling". The offended receives satisfaction, he also "offended" you in this way. "Good", a man, but sometimes or accidentally chopping off his fingers, made me humble (or understand what he did).
We continue to live and stay away from objects that can cut off our fingers, so as not to be humiliated.
Previously, for humiliation at the royal court were special people - jesters.
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Jesters at the Court of Empress Anna
[Valery Ivanovich Jacobi](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valery_Jacobi), 1872, is the State Tretyakov Gallery, Moscow 
* A multi-valued word is a word that has several lexical meanings. One value is direct, the others are portable. A vivid example of a multi-valued word is the key (a nut, a violin, a spring, a key to the lock).