Someone will always disagree and sometimes it's me.
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0.000 HBDSomeone will always disagree and sometimes it's me.
Point and counterpoint. It's enjoyable to spend time with people who get you. Who get what you're talking about. Who agree with every clever point you make and who never say anything that you can find fault with. Enjoyable and comforting and boring. When I'm only looking for people who agree with me, I'm setting myself up for a deadly dull time. It's like saying "I just want people to know how to behave well and that means behaving like I do" It sounds really tempting, but in reality it would be awful. Like just sitting talking to myself - or like talking to an AI chatbot that is too ready to tell you the things that you want to hear. It's also flawed because it assumes that I'm right about everything, that I know how to behave well and behave well at all times. And that's just not true, however much I'd like it to be. But there's a twist on this in our online social networks and media. Which is that because the choices seem to be between strongly agreeing or strongly disagreeing with other people, I can find myself reading lots of things that I don't agree with, but which I don't want to argue with in public. And then I'm increasingly surrounded by people who seem to be just like me (the algorithm makes sure of that) but that's because I've witheld some important information about what I actually think - in order to not get into an argument with someone who's just wrong. Added to that is the tendency for people to form factions around reinforcing certain ideas and when one of them feels attacked, they all feel attacked. And that's when I need to just step away from the keyboard and accept that life is better when we agree to disagree.