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Okay, this may not go as the other entries for this topic I've read. A lot of us have so many great things to say about our parents, the wonderful traits we inherited that we are so grateful for. I do have a lot of it too but I just felt like sharing the few I wouldn't wish my kids will inherit.

Mind you, this is not me showing ingratitude to my parents in anyway or that I love them any less for making me inherit this from them. It's just that I am trying to be positive for my future kids and praying they live even much better than I would.

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Just to keep a good justification, I have really wonderful traits directly from my mum and dad. I got my body build from mum, my jovial self from dad and I tend to take things as they come like my mum. These are what make me who I am among many others and I am grateful I have them, thanks to God and my parents.

It's amazing how I didn't get to live with mum as much as I did with dad but I grew up to be a lot like her than I am of my dad. Well, I shouldn't be so surprised when my brother seem to take a lot from my uncle *(dad's elder brother)* lol. I must say traits are powerful in how they play out in our lives, some are learnt when both individuals spend a lot of time together and I think one of the traits I don't like so much was gotten that way. 

That being said, I have Traits I got, one each from dad and mum that I wouldn't want to be passed on to my kids for reasons I'll share in this post.

**From Dad - Not being calculative of my expenses**

This is not an all bad trait but I feel I would do even better if I didn't take this from dad. It's only recently dad has begin to show signs of being more calculative while spending but somehow, I have adopted that habit already and still finding it hard to limit it. Thankfully, this hasn't made me lose too much or spend more than I earn but I don't wish my kids to have it in the future.

It's a trait that won't do much good in the financial aspect of one's life but if put in control, one can be good to others and also spend below income means.

**From Mum - Being easily affected or being weak**

Mum is stronger and I bet it's because she has experienced more than I have but it's not new when I have weak stomach and a dramatic menstrual period because she had all that but it's been much better for her now as she grow older. I can't give count to the number of times I've prayed that all the stomach ache would go away whenever I'm faced with it.

Mum would always say *"Why take this after me?"* anytime I'm in pains and even know I may not understand fully how sad she feels about it, I know well enough that I don't want my kids facing it too. This trait is not one I can control but I pray it doesn't get passed on.

That's very much it for this topic, regardless, I'm grateful that I've grown to be who I am even with these traits and the awesome ones I got from my parents. My pray and plan is to lay a good foundation for my kids to learn good traits from me and hopefully get good ones too from those that can't be controlled.</div>

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