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Anyone who have parented a child or is parenting a child would know better how hard it is to be the first in everything for a growing child. I've seen so many parents who have a mixed feeling when they watch their kids grow because they are aware that things won't be as they used to be.

There's one stereotype I'm yet to agree with that going around for as long as I can remember... *Male children are most likely to grow older and not feel need to care for their parents than the female children.* I don't agree with this and at the same, it connects to this topic.

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There's always going to be the change we all worry about whether as parents or even as a child. There's the growing changes especially going through puberty both in girls and boys. If parents aren't careful, watchful and disciplined enough on their growing child, they are most likely going to grow up learning from just anyone and this may cause problems later when the bigger changes happen.

I'm not a parent yet but my life so far has been close to living as a parent to my younger siblings since mum left and dad had to do what a man had to do to keep his family from lack. I didn't do much in the disciplinary aspect but I learnt from dad that going easy on us all the time won't be in anyone's favour.

The thing is, disciplining a child is good, guiding them in the right way to go is beautiful, making sure they have the best of life that you can offer is amazing but *what if they decide to change along the way on their own accord?*

What I can do is only remind them of what I have taught them and if after doing my best with that and they still continue in that path, I'll show my support while still trying to prove to them that it is a wrong path if really it is. One thing I won't take or support no matter what is when they leave what is obviously good to what is evil... That would be intolerable.

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It's fine when our kids grow and begin to make decisions for themselves and I believe our work as parents played a role in helping them make those decisions. So it is important we expect every possible future changes and use them to guide them from their young age in order to help them better when they grow older.

If they must change and I must support them in that new change, it has to be one I am prepared for and expected, one I know isn't evil for them even if they are failing to be aware of it and one I know would help their kid on the long run.

Change is constant, people change but this is where prayers come in. We pray and hope that only positive changes happen. The prayers of parents go a long way in keeping the children in check and I will toll that line if I become a parent.</div>

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