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In the [previous chapter](https://steemit.com/beliefs/@nomad-magus/from-a-slave-to-a-master-chapter-23-to-believe-part-i) I wrote how I had realized that if one has blocking beliefs about the **mere possibility** of having a loving relationshipת then those beliefs will determine one's reality! Over the years I have also realized that My body and other parts of my soul-self listen to me, literally, and it's important to speak up what I truly believe in. But first, let me go back to the belief that a relationship is a struggle. 


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Often, people's past experiences cause them to believe that a relationship is a struggle between two parties which, like a mechanical device, needs its regular right maintenance. Such rational thinking is typically held by those who lost the belief as they have grown up. As children we knew that when we would grow up it would be suffice to find the right girl/guy and once that would happen we would live together happily ever after. We were not familiar with statements such as: “*to work on the relationship*”, “*love is not enough*”, “*women are complicated*”, “*all men look only for one thing*” etc, simply because we were not exposed to the living in the dualistic world. With the growing-up came the realization of the seemingly real world and hence we accordingly shaped our world-views and beliefs in order to survive, that is to meet a nice and kind person, to marry them, to invest lots of efforts to make the “relationship works”, and somehow, with conflicts and quarrels – “*just like any regular couple*” – to cross the dramas of life and get old together.

**You must pay attention if such perception identifies your own thinking about life** because if it is not changed you will not be able to pass the belief barrier. To all the dear people who have grown up to become bitter and alienated in front of the alleged sober reality and therefore gave up their vision about TrueLove and a complete relationship to a dualistic world-view, I clearly say this: **if you really desire to change your life and have TrueLove, realization, change first and foremost your approach and re-adopt the new-old beliefs from the time you were innocent children.**

### Walk your talk 
The beliefs that people hold show themselves everywhere in their daily lives and therefore it is not enough to declare to yourselves that you believe in TrueLove and in non-dualistic relationships but **you must mirror that inner knowing in every thought, word and deed in your life**. 

For instance – you spend a friendly evening with your friends and during the relaxing small talk your friend asks you: “*So, what’s up with you? do you have a new great love?*”, pay attention to the way you respond. Perhaps your shyness doesn’t allow you to admit in words what you believe in the heart so you abruptly dismiss the whole thing by saying something like: “*Come’on, what do I need love for, let me enjoy the moment with as many girls as I can get. Life is short, you know*”, and you wink. Or perhaps you hesitantly say: “*Well, …sort of…I have someone….but It’s not serious….just for fun, you know*”. By such statements, you strongly declare that you do not really believe in True Love. The inner thoughts, as beautiful as they may be, are not worth a thing if they stand alone. You must hear yourself! literally!


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If you are a girl and your friends try to introduce you to someone, pay attention to the way you speak when they ask you to describe what you look for. Will you limit yourself by saying something like: “*Oh, I want so much to finally meet someone….and I don’t require much…for me it is enough if he is sweet, cute with a kind heart*”, or will your declaration to life reflect your inner belief: “*I truly believe in TrueLove and I only want to meet a person who will reflect my belief and share this value. When you know someone like that please introduce him to me”?*! Be sure to speak your inner truths because if you don’t and your words fail to authentically represent your thoughts and beliefs **you will create an inner contradiction that will hold back any creation that you – as the creator – will try to manifest.**

The kingdom of TrueLove pays great attention to your words and deeds. Accordingly, it is decided if you are ready to have the key to the gate.


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