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Just this afternoon, one of my work colleague told me she wanted to talk to me and I left everything I was doing to listen to what she has to say. I was expecting her to say something that was bothering her. I was also expecting to hear her life story which will end in her billing me. Mentally, I have already prepared for her to land, and my response has already been prepared. However, what she asked me left me wondering. The question was totally unexpected. 

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She said "Nurse Dan, please don't be offended by what I want to ask you oo, but I have observed it for some time now, and I said let me ask you." I was like "okay? What is it do you want to ask." 

Why don't you like flowing with people? Even when we had a meeting recently, you just shared your opinion and remained quite all through. You even had to leave immediately the meeting finished." I have been trying to connect with you but it seems like you don't really want that. She added. 

At this point, I didn't know what to say. Before she started talking, I was doing something else. You know, trying to multitask but when she said that, I had to pause, turned my head to look at her first, then I turned the seat I was seating on. When she saw that she got my attention, she smiled and said, it's good as you turned.

How will I tell this girl that I don't like relating with them because I'm avoiding issues? I asked myself. Welp, I just cooked up something immediately and gave her as a reply. 

One thing I totally hate with passion is having to argue with somebody. When making friends, one of the most important things I assess is - if the person likes arguments. Like bro, I'm not a lawyer neither I'm I a philosopher.  Go argue with your reflection and leave me out of it. 
Instead of arguing, I prefer to totally avoid people. Sometimes, I maybe right, but to avoid an argument, I will just make it seem like I'm in the wrong and then, apologize. 

Unfortunately, no matter how hard I try to avoid arguments, people always find a way to argue with me. 



I remember one day, I had an emergency in the Accident and emergency unit. The patient presented with hypertension and hyperglycemia plus other signs and symptoms. 

I immediately started my nursing intervention. After checking the vital signs, I sited the I.V line and prepared an infusion to control the raised blood pressure before the doctor comes and make a diagnosis. 

One of my colleague, a newly graduated nurse, came in and started arguing that I should not administer the infusion I wanted to administer. She said I should administer something else that has sugar instead. I tried to explain to her the reason for the infusion I was about to administer, but she insisted that what I am doing was wrong. 

I didn't want to argue, so, I said she's right. I kept quite and went out with the infusion I wanted to administer. After infusing it, in the presence of the patient, she wanted to start pointing out that I was administering the wrong infusion. 


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To avoid losing the patient's trust in the medical team, I had to call her aside, then I went online to show her that what she wanted me to do was actually wrong. I opened a few medical site and proved to her that I knew what I was doing. When she saw that I was correct, she could not say a thing. Though she accepted that she was wrong, I could not help it but wonder........ Had it been I used the infusion she proposed, what would have been the fate of that patient? Medics needs to actually have extensive knowledge. 

Had it been this case didn't involve a life, I would have just admitted defeat and leave the environment. I don't actually want to waste my energy trying to explain things to somebody that will never want to listen to what I have to say, so, it's better to walk out. Some people will even want to use your words against you in an argument. So, I always walk away from any argument.

The only argument I could stay and listen to - is when two scholars of my field of study argue. I will stay because I know that when they argue about a particular topic, I would gain an unforgettable knowledge. I would not join the argument even though I know what they are arguing about, but, I will keep listening with a closed mouth. 

Sometimes, arguments escalate to the extent that both parties engage in a physical fight. This is the height of it. That's why I hate arguing. One way I avoid this is to admit defeat on time. If somebody keep insisting that they are right and I am wrong, or we're arguing about something and they are not listening to me, I will just quietly sit down, or I go out of that environment. Admitting defeat and walking out always help to avoid such moments of physical exchanges. 

Thank you for reading. 



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