If you want to change a partner!
psychology·@prosto·
0.000 HBDIf you want to change a partner!
People, including often psychologists, vaguely understand what relationships are and how they are arranged, as a consequence -<strong> there is a lack of understanding and the fact that relations can occur and how things can be done with what is happening.</strong>  - The answer is in fact, and it is not hidden in the secret books of the sages, not at all, the most effective answer about the relationship is the system approach. That is, an approach that treats relationships as a system and all the processes in them, as system processes. <em>it is enough to try to behave in a new way</em>, then another element of the system (the relationship partner) will be forced to respond in a new way, and it is through this exchange of new schemes of actions and actions that the couple can develop a more effective model of interaction that will allow relations to find equilibrium. - <strong>What does it mean in the simplest form?</strong> > For example, in a couple of private conflicts because one of them behaves in a certain way, which hurts the second, but the second at the same time - is silent, says nothing, tolerates, and then - there is an explosive scandal on an equal place. This is the dynamics.  The couple is moving to parting and one of them (for example, the one that is silent) has the idea that to maintain the relationship you need to remake the partner. <code>But in fact it is necessary to change not the partner, but the dynamics. How can I change it? In this case - the one who is silent - should start talking, reporting that it hurts, then the one who demonstrates, causing pain - will react in a new way.</code> <strong>One way or another, it's impossible to change another person-it's not even possible to change yourself</strong>, but it's unlikely to change oneself, but schemes of thinking, decision-making, choices and actions can be diversified, and in different situations you can use different options that will change the dynamics of relations.<strong> In order to make it more habitual and easier, we need to expand the horizons of our knowledge and ideas.</strong>
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