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There are 11 different statuses listed on Facebook for your relationship status. I'm amazed at this. As a marriage officer, I need to make very sure what someone's legal status is in this regard before I marry them. The possibilities are less in this regard but it makes sense that throughout our lifetimes our relationship status can be many different things as life happens.

There is only one relationship status with which I have a problem. And yes, the title of this post gives it away. __It is complicated!__ I think we should remove this as a possibility for a relationship status. From Facebook. From the language we use nowadays. From our thinking. There are two major reasons I think this.

## 1. It should not be complicated
Mostly when people tell me their relationship status is complicated, it is because of some uncertainty. One or both parties are unclear about the other person's level of commitment. Or even their own commitment. They might be divided between two people. There might even be a secret third party. __*It's complicated*__ as a relationship status almost always points to a negative.

_My advice is simply this: Simplify things immediately. Make a choice. Give your commitment fully. Ask where you stand until you know. Or change your status to **single**. This may sound harsh but life is too short to invest in **complicated** relationships. Know where you stand or say no!_

## 2. It is complicated enough
It is the most difficult challenge but also the most rewarding thing that you will ever do. No one has an easy relationship that is just smooth sailing. The Hollywood type _meant-to-be-therefore-it-works_ relationship does not exist. Every relationship is hard work and asks of you all of your focus and energy. There is no exception. Never has been. Never will be. Simple, clear-cut, fully committed relationships are complicated. There is no need to add any complications. In fact, any added complications is a killer.

_My advice is the old and well-known acronym KISS. **K**eep **I**t **S**imple & **S**traight. Relationships are complicated enough all on their own._

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