# <center> The 5 languages ​​of love by Gary Chapman. </center>
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<div class = "text-justify"> Hello hello !! Friends of steemit, today I bring you one of the topics that we like the most or at least those that we call romantic people, if it is "Love" is a subject that as human beings will always call our attention, because It is intrinsically related to us.



Even the most serious person, through his life, will come to experience that feeling of loving others; for example with our relatives, friends, with the couple we decided to be one flesh and LOVE US for the rest of our lives, in my case with @ysabelbencomo. LOVE is a word composed of just 4 letters but through the history of humanity has made an impact.
 
For this reason I was inspired to talk about a particular book I read a few years ago that helped me a lot to understand a little more about love or rather how to LOVE my loved ones and feel loved by them.

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This book is entitled "The 5 Languages ​​of Love" written by Dr. Gary Chapman, is a peculiar literary work that leads us to understand in a practical way that the acts of love that we perceive, give, or would like to receive are like different languages ​​or languages ​​that we use to communicate ourselves and all people in certain countries, regions or continents of the world.
I do not want to tell you the whole book with this post, I just want to motivate or disturb you to know more about this topic and great point of view.

I explain, it happens in many cases between parents and children where there is a damaged injured relationship, because both parties do not feel loved.
 Maybe the son will say:


> "My parents do not love me, I am a mistake for them, they do not seek to understand me"


And parents will say:


> "Our son does not love us, he has not valued everything we have done for him, he does not treat us as we deserve"


Another example and in thousands of couples sadly leads to the breakdown of the relationship, the wife says:


> "This came to an end because he does not love me he does not pay attention to me. He spends the day working and with his friends and does not invite me to leave since we were boyfriends "


The husband, however, replied:


> "Our love came to an end because she is not grateful, I wear myself out working so that she has everything and on the other hand I barely get home what I hear are complaints and more complaints"


In these two common examples in our society, in most cases it is not that love is not loved or ended.


No, it is that they have been speaking different languages. Imagine that an Asian person who has never heard anything about the Spanish language and you approach him and say:


> # <center> "Te Amo, I love you, 我 愛 你, Ich liebe dich," </center>




So you say a thousand times, this person will not understand you, because he speaks another language and vice versa, in love it is like that, throughout our life we ​​will speak in different languages ​​of love, if we do not know this, if we do not know what language is the we speak, or the language spoken by the person I love, we never know.


Chapman (2009) says that there are 5 languages ​​of love in which we give and receive affection.


* Words: Words of affirmation are those people who perceive love when they are flattered, encouraged, told how proud they are of the work they have done, or how much they are loved.


* Quality Time: They are those that really feel precious when they spend an exclusive time to talk looking into their eyes, where they forget the whole world just to go out, share and spend pleasant times.


* Acts of Services: It is when the person is treated with kindness, is served and cared for, for example clean, cook, perform the heaviest tasks of the home, for people who perceive love in this way is really nice and valuable these acts however small they may be.


* Gifts: As the name says, is when a person feels valuable to receive gifts, regardless of the economic value that it has, simply the gesture of giving to her is enough and enough. If you give him a blue stone, he will see it very valuable.


* Physical Contact: the last and fifth language are physical contact, which is based on hugs, kisses, caresses and sex.


Each person has a main language in which he gives and perceives love, the important thing is that we study what is the main language of love that we speak.

I tell you my example, as you will know I am soon to marry @ysabelbencomo, she and I at the beginning of our relationship.
 Many times we argued over the fact that I did not feel appreciated by her. And she felt the same about me. I explained to him:


> "You do not love me because you do not support me, you do not tell me nice things".


Yes ... My language is "Words of affirmation", instead she told me:


> "You do not love me because, you are always busy, you never have time to go out and share well with me".


In her case, her language is "quality time". Thanks to that we knew our languages ​​everything changed a lot, because, it was not that we did not love each other, the problem was that we were speaking in different languages. Now as we know each other more, our "tanks of love" always or for the most part of time are full, and when they diminish we know how to fill ourselves. </div>

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 They lived happy for ever
# After all this, what is your language?

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## <center> Bibliographical references: </center>
* Chapman, G. (2009). The five languages ​​of love. LifeWay Spanish.

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