"*When perfectionism is driving, shame is always riding shotgun and fear is the annoying backseat driver*." -Brene Brown

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### The New Best Is Good Enough

The room for error in this shit show called society is razor thin. It’s not just a matter of pretending we got our shit together - it’s a matter of really having it all figured out, whether that’s work wise, parenting wise, relationship wise, you name it. **The fear of not being on top of our A game permeates our culture**. While perfection is an unattainable ideal- it nonetheless rests on the majority of people’s to do list of the day. The irony is that by putting on ourselves such unsustainable pressure - we ultimately kill ourselves (and perhaps our sanity) in the process. 

People fear it all. Fear of not being a good enough parent. Fear of not doing enough. Fear of not making enough $. Fear of not having enough. Fear of not living enough. Funny how the fear of not “being” enough never makes it to that list. Because truth be told, in today’s society, “ doing” has stolen the spotlight. You ain’t your best if you ain’t overdoing it in the 56 different life departments. It’s equally funny that “doing” isn’t measured by how much present awareness one cultivates while engaging in all sorts of endeavours. All that matters is how much one does. Quantity over quality all day erday bitches!

We take the harder path not because we genuinely want to go into that direction, but rather because we fear being judged if we don’t head that way. Fear kills us alive because it stops us from pursuing a life that feels authentic to us. We’ve been sold on the idea that aiming for “perfection” is the only worthwhile quest to settle for. **From searching for the perfect partner, to the perfect house, to the perfect job, to the perfect mask - we want Perfect everything with a capital P**. 

To say that we are obsessed for wanting the best out of everything is an understatement. In a world where there’s always something better around the corner, settling for “good enough” ain’t too enticing. So we fear. Fear that we should choose this instead of that. Fear that we’ll regret our decision. Fear that we’re missing out on something greater/better/cooler than what we have now. No surprise we take all these yoga retreats and stress detox activities on the week end. **We’re sabotaging ourselves up all day long to keep up with ideals that are as fake and unsustainable as our social media profiles**.

Maybe we should take a chill pill and infuse  some self compassion onto our endless to-do list of the day. When you are compassionate toward your own person, you don’t feel compelled to take part in the destructive rat race narrative that society pushes on you. You’re your own pacemaker. **You don’t buy into ways of living that don’t feel right and authentic to you**. Most of all, you refuse to adhere to standards that feel utterly toxic and wrong to you. Because you know that they don’t pave the way for a healthy and fulfilling life - only for one filled with more self hatred and misery.
**You know the way. And it isn’t society’s way**.


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