How Being Politically Correct Stunts Your Growth: Teal Swan Video
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0.000 HBDHow Being Politically Correct Stunts Your Growth: Teal Swan Video
 I bet you've never heard of Teal Swan. I hadn't either until about 3 weeks ago. Smart people are hiding all over the internet, and I've been sniffing them out. You'll be glad that this post will be short, as I tend to be long-winded here and in life. I'm working on being more to the point, simple. I'm giving you a directive so we can understand each other in the rest of the post. Watch this video. It's surprisingly good: https://youtu.be/TfmijdPgyaI # By being careful in not offending anyone you actually participate in the continuation of human suffering. And, you as a person don't evolve. Society doesn't evolve, either. I view Steemit as my school right now. I've gotten into some arguments, a few big disagreements so far. The reason? I've made a commitment to radical honesty and this has shown me some of the weaknesses contained within myself and others. This has also enabled me to see others for who they truly are. Being one of the only women who was outspoken in here from 4 weeks ago was, not very fun, actually. I experienced a level of stress that was undesirable. I believe I was being overly outspoken in order to test the environment and also, I was geniunely afraid that this place could turn into something really hostile towards women. This post is about what happens when you speak your truth, even at the cost of offending others. A few things happen: 1. You make others uncomfortable because you're like a mirror. You feel anger, discomfort, maybe rage. 2. Depending on your ability to see other people's perspectives, you will either begin to fester with anger, or 3. You will start to understand that the people in the world are your mirrors and you'll begin to resonate deeply with those who respect you. I had one moment in Steemit that was pretty painful but also enlightening. I think I was on my _"packs of men are terrible to be around"_ train of thought which actually stemmed from past experiences of working with 99% men at a car dealership and @dantheman sort of woke up my mind to the possibility that I was carrying around vitriol and violent thoughts that were damaging me and others. This violence and rage was affecting my ability to see people for who they were. It was clouding my rational thought. I think if I hadn't been radically honest about my struggles, and if @dantheman hadn't been radically honest in his response, I would still be experiencing those negative emotions, that rage. It's only minimally assuaged, though. ## Being called out had the effect of making me grow as a person. This was painful at first, but the more I talk about my truth, my honest feelings, my rage, the more I learn how to get along with others who may be completely opposite from me. # You do yourself and the world a disservice by being careful. You can be honest and respectful, it's possible. But it's not possible to be yourself and not make anyone else angry. That's just being dishonest. _by the way, I'm not addressing people who attack others for sport here. I'm addressing those who are too careful, those who care too much about what others think._ But, one thing is for sure: if this place turns into a porn fest, I'm out. I'll start my own social media platform on the blockchain. The reason is simple, and yet most of the pro-porn men don't get it: Steemit has no age limit. There are really young girls in here. If porn becomes some kind of rampant thing, the young girls will be damaged, and start to think that the only reason they exist is to become eye candy for the male gaze. I won't be able to share this site with my own young daughter. That would leave me fractured. Hurt. I would leave this place, and yes, my energies thus far would be a total fucking waste of time. I'm going to say something that will offend men, it's my radical honesty moment: most men seem so selfish and one-dimensional to me. It's a stereotype and plenty of men don't fit it, but I see this issue creep out, over and over again. It feels real...... And here's another stereotype, this time about women: women are too afraid to speak their minds because they have been conditioned to be "perfect" instead of "experimenting with life". Failure, I think from the female perspective is avoided, because deep down, women feel that they will be harassed and made fun of by men. Being outcasted is not in our human survival toolkit. I've noticed this because I was conditioned in this way, too. Women want to be accepted by men, for mating purposes, obviously, so possessing an independent mind is filled with unique challenges. Most male egos are fragile and cannot cope with an intellect that might be more advanced than their own. This is why many highly intelligent women are alone. I've met these women. They are my friends. Their mating pool is greatly reduced, to include only those males who can cope with a woman who challenges their thinking. Our culture does not promote independent thought on a mass scale. It promotes fitting in, and we as humans are also wired to fit in. The only ones who create big waves in society are those who have decided that fitting in is too big of a concession. They become the Arthur Rimbauds of the world. # Rimbaud is my original inspiration. The intoxication, well, it still exists within and has not born the fruit quite yet. It was Rimbaud who said love must be reinvented. I still agree with Rimbaud on this matter. https://youtu.be/-3Uk-pm01_o _"I have researched the magic shapes of the happiness no one escapes"_ -Rimbaud This is not a comfortable post. I'll likely get heat for it considering the fact that I'm only in a 14% minority right now. And I feel that I'm in even a more scarce minority: women over 40. How many women over 40 exist right now in Steemit? I mostly see younger women in here........... Oh well, one of my closest friends in here is 1 in 170 million. We are all kind of unique that we have found this place, somehow, some way. I'd be interested in doing a little study on those who wandered in by themselves vs. those who were referred by a friend....... I'm hitting the publish button because my heart is beating fast with fear...
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