ENOUGH I heard many cases of marriage failure due to sinamot. Last week back I knew of a close friend, which happened to his close relatives. Among the men (paranak) with the women (parboru) did not agree on sinamot. The dream of a pair of human children to wade the ark of households ran aground before the screen expands.

You may have heard of such a case, and I'm sure your reaction was the same as mine: to criticize it. But I am sure, we then do nothing or just stand still, and if repeated again will again condemn and spare.

We also dare not take the attitude and enlighten the immediate environment: marriage of sons and daughters should not fail just because of a sinamot incompatibility. All because we, consciously or unconsciously, have been taken prisoners of pride. We prefer praise rather than harmony.
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Because people make their son's marriage in a big building and invite a lot of people, we want to be. Not too much we care about the financial ability of sons and daughters, prospective besan, even ourselves, which may actually be just barely. We are not worried about the process of "bargain" and the form ulaon (hajatan) can trigger the rift of newly created child's household. We are more enthralled with the packaging and do not care that there should be a struggle on the part of it to make it happen.

Not long ago in Jakarta there was the bride's parents who during the party became gossip material because he insisted on asking a lot of sinamot in order to party at a building in the number Kebon Nanas called the most expensive. In fact, judging from the ability of both sides of money, they should not make the feast as expensive.
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We are no longer sensitive to the complaints of young people, especially among men, who choose to delay or have not dared to marry due to sinamot. It is also possible that we do not want to know the bad  batakeffec765ts of tension when deciding the amount of sinamot...rruff., ulaon form, on our daughter or son's house later batak. Our unsympathetic or materialistic attitudes will make our son-in-law and my son reduce our self-respect, which impacts our daughter.