A friend of mine the other day was out partying on a girls night, she is in her early 40s. At the nightclub, a young man approached her, took out his phone and showed her a picture of his dick. Yes, that is right, a dick pic delivered in person.

This tells of the sad fall in social skills that face the world today and the influence social media has over desocialization. People can no longer introduce themselves to a stranger, find conversations that connect and flirt well enough to create an interest in another person. Instead, a dick pic.

My friend *laughed* at the sight but, the saddest thing is that it likely works. A numbers game where if he shows enough girls, one will be drunk enough to say, 'yeah, why not'. This consumable approach and low bar of uh, entry to one night stands means less and less are developing the skills to ever do much more than have one night stands. If a dick pic is the into, I am assuming the personality may not hold up as well.<div class="pull-right">https://i.imgur.com/ujeMVbj.jpg</div>

I do not understand this type of behavior on the internet at all. People who flashed their tackle in my day generally did so while wearing a trench coat and then running away. Deviants who forced a sexually motivated situation without permission. This is criminal behavior in most places but, on the internet gets laughed away as 'the internet'. 

It is no wonder it spills into the walking world as the behavior has no consequence online. If someone I didn't know, man or woman, sent me an unsolicited picture of their privates, their is no way in any of the layers of Dante's inferno I would be interested. And if they did it in real life, I would not only laugh I wouldn't be able to resist ridiculing the behavior.

Some may say that this is a generational shift and I don't understand the changes in relationships, that I am too old. But, I have been around long enough to understand a thing or two about a thing or two. This shift that leads to a numbers game without investment does not likely lead to eventual satisfaction, no matter the early numbers.

This social skill degradation in favor of large group interaction leads to an inability to create intimacy when one to one. Nearly every social network is driving for 'maximum connection' yet, scientifically speaking, one cannot really interact effectively with more than 200 or so. A tribe. But to interact with the tribe successfully takes a lot more work than playing numbers games as trust needs to be developed between members over time and a dick pic doesn't cut it so to speak.

There is likely always a girl who will take this guy up on his psychopathic offer until such time he is too wrinkly and the women are no longer *that* drunk. By then, the people who have been running in these circles are left unskilled, alone and unsatisfied by their available options.

But, I am old fashioned, I like the playfulness, the chase, the flirting the push and pull, polarity and attraction inherent in dating. I like the work it takes to win a heart, and the work it takes to keep it. Funnily enough, the work it takes to keep it is the same skill set as the work to truly win it. 

Being in a relationship doesn't mean the flirting ends or the push and pull and playful teasing go away, if anything, it deepens further and is one of the most enjoyable parts of a long-term relationship. It is a connection between well known points that continually circle each other and with enough momentum, it really is *until death do they part*.

Perhaps this is why so many relationships fall apart, people no longer have the skills required to keep them together. After a few years in a relationship though, it is unlikely one more dick pic is going to ignite the flame, unless it is from another man who offers a bit more.

Taraz
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There was an obvious picture here but I am not 'that guy' and I didn't really want to do a search for one.

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