>Never thought about the definition of "decent". I'll use that more precisely now, thank you!

Himmler was a "decent chap" in a community of Nazis. 

>Those who break away after seeing the mess I made, well, good riddance. 

They wouldn't have been there long anyway. 

>But it does break things. And the more comfortable one gets in their situation, the harder it becomes to break that comfort.

This is what it comes down to, right? People want to stay comfortable, even if it is actually a place of discomfort. 

It must be weird to have random people join the family, but also super interesting!