Talking to strangers is a tad bit daunting, isn't it.

 

You have no clue who this person is & don't know if it's worth facing a possible rejection.

 

To make matters worse, you have been programmed to avoid strangers.

 

 

 

 

 

Growing up, you were told a repeated amount of times about Stranger Danger.

 

'Johnny, don't talk to strangers. You hear me? They could be very dangerous.'

 

 

 

 

That is superb advice for a little kid.

 

But for a grown adult who is looking to expand their network, it is poor advice.

 

You need to be able to talk to strangers & do so with poise if you want to expand your network.

 

 

 

 

But you are struggling.

 

Can you tell me why?

 

'Uh...'

 

You aren't too sure.

 

I know why.

 

It's due to INTENT.

 

 

 

 

Picture a light switch.

 

It can only be ON or OFF, right?

 

'Right..'

 

But it can't be ON and OFF, right?

 

'Right...'

 

Well, it's the same with your communication!

 

 

 

 

What happens to you is that you put your Intent Light Switch in the middle.

 

You want to talk to the person (ON) but you do so with hesitancy (OFF).

 

And when you behave like this, you give a very meek 'hey there.'

 

The other person can't tell if you are talking to them or if you are talking to yourself.

 

 

 

 

It's all because you lack intent, my friend.

 

 

 

 

So you need to fix your mindset.

 

It's either all in or avoid.

 

But it can't be middle ground.

 

 

 

 

Picture your internet for a second.

 

You ever had a problem with slow WIFI signal?

 

And it's so slow that it's taking FOREVER to download a page?

 

The weak connection is enough for you to turn off the device in frustration & do something else.

 

That weak signal was good as useless to you.

 

 

 

 

It's the same case with communication.

 

When you are half assing your Intent Light Switch, you are giving a weak signal to others.

 

And not trying to be mean, but you are good as useless to them.

 

They have no clue what you want.

 

And to make matters worse, you are coming off as a creepy stranger to them.

 

 

 

 

Luckily for you, this blog brings awareness to this issue.

 

You can now evaluate your Intent Light Switch.

 

 

 

 

 

-Are you someone who is ON and approaching the convo with FULL intent?

 

-Are you someone who is OFF and not approaching the convo?

 

-Are you someone who is trying to finagle in the middle category where you want to speak, but you try do so in a soft voice so no one can hear you in case you get rejected?

 

 

 

 

Evaluate yourself.

 

And do so honestly.

 

 

 

 

 

It's stuff like this that will help you level up your communication.



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