One of the biggest transformations I’ve had in my life is when I started internalizing this idea that is often spoken as a cliché.  The sense that most people seem to take away is that of fate or destiny, that things are predetermined or “meant to be”.  I could utter this phrase “Everything happens for a reason” and mean it but my meaning would be entirely different from it’s common interpretation.

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If I say that things happen for a reason, I mean that the things that happen to reflect a meaning back to you.  Your experience is the output of the actions and decisions you have made, but more fundamentally, the thoughts and feelings that have led you to make them.

They are almost always unclear in nature but that is because we are almost unclear in what we “input” into our lives.  We have mixed vibrations that inform mixed results.  But being open to the idea that “everything happens for a reason” and not in that cliché way, the entire way we interact with the world begins to change.  

Everything in our lives begins to take on a symbolic meaning.  At first we may be taking shots on the dark, but as we continue to play with the idea that our experiences are trying to tell us something, we begin to see more and more patterns.  Unwanted experiences begin to lead us to change behaviors in order to improve ourselves.  Bad luck ceases to be bad luck, and we can begin to understand what actions are leading to what outcomes.  Seemingly unrelated events begin to show a deeper level of interconnectivity and we can see, to a greater extent, how our thoughts and emotions will create a ripple effect in our lives.  

In my own life, I’ve made us of the things that happen to me to discover all the distorted vibration I have been putting out there through contradicting thoughts and feelings.  I can recognize my reactions to certain unwanted experiences and by searching for a positive way to look at these experiences, I automatically cease the invitation of such experiences into my experience.  By focusing on a certain type of obnoxious person, for example, I invite more similar people into my life.  When I treat these people as an indication of some kind of distortion inside of myself that’s needs to be addressed, I can always find it...the energy I give to the frustration I feel at their behavior can be rerouted towards more proactive thoughts.  From this change, I usually find these people show up in my life less and less.  I may naturally avoid places where they can be found or I find things to say that brings out the better side of them so I don’t even notice how obnoxious they can be. 

It may sound like a bit of a stretch for some people, to say that life is speaking to them at every moment, some may even consider it “crazy”, but try it out for a month and see what happens.  Even if you don’t come to the same conclusions I have, it will surely be an interesting thought experiment ;-)