some people have been taught to hate and not to love...So, in some situations they are hiding from people who love!!
Sometimes they are looking for the one who made a mistake and ruined something and they can't even think that it may have been their fault!!

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People usually have the illusion that the best way to discard their attitudinal attitude towards their internal choices is to load them on to others, often accusing them of their own feelings of inferiority that they easily identify to other people.
They blame others with empathy, unconsciously hoping to get rid of the burden of their personal guilt for their mistakes, imperfections and omissions that are usually unrecognized, have introspectively injured their own sense of inner coherence and mental security.

But the opposite is true: After every aggressive "gossip" and every malicious social critique, they always feel more empty and they feel more guilty.. More exposed and helpless from their internal disputes and dialogues ...Even more existentially inadequate, and weaker to support and give meaning to their own choices.

Conversely, when they begin to recognize the injured fragments of their problematic self-image, they stop blaming others with ease. They start to reduce their aggressive demands for the others to be impeccable as they turn willingly to themselves.

From the moment they embrace themselves internally  with loving mood of their vulnerable masks, they no longer see reason not to do it with other people.

They build more solidly the foundations of self-forgiveness and the greater, the better inclusion inside and outside of others - into a single image: the image of an external world qualitatively equivalent to the interior.
A world where there are no differences. Since differences reflect schisms.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9FITuvF5zA

this is a greek song which says that we must stop accusing others and try to understand that everything happens to us it is our fault.. I will try to translate it below!

My facial expression is a little bit depressed
a little bit melancholic
It might be someone else's fault
it might be my fault
maybe the two of us have something in common
it may be our fault 
or it might not be
I'd like to be able to express my fault
to be capable of realizing it
If I cry when it's not on me
it could also be me

It is probable that it is no one's fault
it could be our destiny
the gamer of the fate don't alter after all
But those who nag and sigh,
expecting for something good to happen
blame the others and yell at them
"I had no other choice"

But who will tell you what is right and ethical?
who will inform me what to do
what is either right or wrong?
Provided you don't find out how to love
I am the who need to know
to fall from you whoever you are
or whoever you you'd like to be
you will hate me
you will revenge me
for loving that much
and all those that love me
you will be the one to hate them
but they will not be mean to you
they will love you as well

Well you will be searching in the same places
so as to hide from love
the safety you are looking for
will be found in the same person's hand
who led you to hate
You may wake up one day
looking depressed
and instead of filling your gap
searching for the cause of it
that things didn't go smoothly
and turned out utterly different.
take into to account 
that the  one is on him cries
and wonder if he is too embarrassed to cry
And if you bend your head
to make sure your tear is invisible
and if you seduce to the thought
that you are in a charge of it
then this is an amazing start