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This is, not always the case, because there are situations where it is out of control and our hands off to solve. An example is death or a chronic illness; selling properties to solve some problem, and many examples that may come to mind.

*What I should be done?* Change the attitude to what you can't solve, that is, don't see yourself as a victim of circumstances, which maybe you could be, but don't stay stuck there, see life from another perspective. In the case of the loss of a loved one, it is important to move through the grief and move on. The attitude with which you assume things will be decisive in your life.

Life has its dark days and warm days but also among them there is a great variety of colors that can be used, the interesting thing about living every moment is that they nourish us, teach us, make you recognize yourself and know what you are made. Fantasies are just illusions that beyond being beautiful, we have to enjoy them even if we don't like gray.

>***Finally, The courage of change is necessary and time becomes nothing.*** 

I have treasured every moment, I keep every thought in my mind... I don't think I will lose sight of myself, but I will enjoy seeing myself moving forward... in two months I will reach 60 and then some... I can't believe it!... I have learned so much from myself and I will continue to do so... it is part of my self-esteem and I hope to never let myself down! Furthermore, I love myself, I will get to where I want to get to because I still have the magic and the desire to achieve it.

I love myself just the way I am, with my smile, my mischief and some antics, with my very particular taste in dressing and singing, with my silence, my good mood, with the music I like to listen to passionate and at the same time funny, with my daily anecdotes, with my desire not to go to training, with my works of art, with my outbursts, with my analyses and reflections of life, my prudence, with my desire to face everything… 

*From the simplest, elementary and even basic things, the best ideas, the best moments and even the best experiences can come out.* 

I remember that I used to put a lot of limits on myself (careful, no, stop that, etc... everything we say to children) and one of my daughters made me realize that I was suffocating her. I was terrified and decided that I didn't want that for her, or for me. 

The dynamic changed, thanks to that window she opened for me. I am still demanding for some things and I put discipline in others. It seems to me that it works. Love has never stopped being. *I stretch the rope and pick up when necessary 🤭 (this is a saying from my country).*

Change comes with purpose, even if it is slowly, because direction is more important than speed... change is a challenge but if I have positive results for my life it must be done. Not all of us are willing and ready for change, in fact, I often resist until I realize that it is necessary.

I keep making mistakes and I will keep doing it, I get frustrated, and I get upset when things happen that don't go with what I want, it causes me to disappear off the face of the earth for a few days when I'm exhausted by constant change, but I don't judge myself.

>***I have understood that I am human and that I am not a super-powered girl.***

Is to relearn of changes I have to incorporate with new interactions, more loving and flexible without clinging to scripts and ways of past proceeding.

You avoid yourself, so much and by not accepting you lose time and that translates into minutes of life that maybe you lost, although you did learn from the situation then translates into gain, it's all in the attitude, and discipline, that's why I say I'm my best teacher.


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